Why do some people cause misery, pain and despair in your life while others bring hope, joy and peace? I pray that I reflect more of the latter, and that I've raised children who in their adult lives do the same. How depressing to face God one day and the realization that our existence on the earth caused more suffering than good? In that moment there will be no justifying, candy - coating or hiding. The only "accomplishment" He is going to care about, is if you loved Him and others more than you loved yourself.